Category Archives: Trauma

There’s a baby in that bath water

Back in medieval days bath water was shared by several people.  The last to get use of the water was the baby in the family, after which the water was discarded.  By that time the water wasn’t very clear…and the … Continue reading

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Where to find friends? Try personal growth groups.

Friends are more important than vitamins. In fact, good ones are like emotional vitamins. They make our lives go better. I’ve talked a lot about this in this blog. However, the question arises…Where do I find them? I live in … Continue reading

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The human requirement for shared experience

Watching a movie trailer recently I had a renewed glimpse of the importance of having shared experiences with others. It is a critical part of living a full, meaningful life. To be honest I can’t remember much about the movie … Continue reading

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Question 3: What lessons and gifts does this problem have to offer me?

Of the four questions to ask yourself when things go wrong, this question is the happiest one. It bends our mind to the fact that all is not lost when things don’t go the way we want. Years ago as … Continue reading

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Happy people and unhappy people

My work often involves working with the internal “younger” parts of an individual that have been hurt by past events.  As a result, I have to make sure that I put my thoughts in the simplest way possible so they … Continue reading

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Blaming your spouse for your self esteem

You are responsible for your self esteem. It’s true.  Ultimately, we are all responsible to take the actions necessary to help us feel good about ourselves.  As children our parents were supposed to give us the feedback that helps us … Continue reading

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Teddy Bears and Recovery

I received an email today which makes a claim that I have believed for a while.  This email said that hugging a teddy bear can be a really comforting thing.   Specifically, this email said that hugging a teddy can … Continue reading

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