Category Archives: Sex addiction

The human requirement for shared experience

Watching a movie trailer recently I had a renewed glimpse of the importance of having shared experiences with others. It is a critical part of living a full, meaningful life. To be honest I can’t remember much about the movie … Continue reading

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Blaming your spouse for your self esteem

You are responsible for your self esteem. It’s true.  Ultimately, we are all responsible to take the actions necessary to help us feel good about ourselves.  As children our parents were supposed to give us the feedback that helps us … Continue reading

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Big feelings and little feelings–know which one your partner is having

Recently in a therapy session I hit on an idea that seemed really helpful.  It is simple, as most helpful ideas are.  Here it is:  When your partner is upset, ask yourself, “Is this a big feeling or a little … Continue reading

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Teddy Bears and Recovery

I received an email today which makes a claim that I have believed for a while.  This email said that hugging a teddy bear can be a really comforting thing.   Specifically, this email said that hugging a teddy can … Continue reading

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Vulnerability and Addiction

When someone comes to me for help with an addiction one of the first things we do is to identify events that trigger their addictive behaviors. We then identify activities and thoughts that are nurturing to them, as well as the … Continue reading

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Ten tips for recovery from sex addiction

Here are a few ideas to help you recover from sex addiction… 1)  Acknowledge that your sex life is truly out of control and that you can’t stop the problem by yourself.  (12-steps) 2)  Get help–typically two types: Professional—a professional … Continue reading

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The breadth of sex

When I think of sex, I think of three different categories:  gender sexuality, romantic sex, and genital sex.  What’s the difference? To me “gender sexuality” is that aspect of our nature that is most broad.  It has to do with … Continue reading

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