Category Archives: Relationships

A short summary of what you probably already know about developing good self esteem

Throughout this blog it is my passion that my readers feel better about themselves after spending time here. It’s what I care about most, and my best gift to offer you. So, at the risk of seeming simplistic to some … Continue reading

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How to share yourself with others and keep your dignity

I guess I’m stuck on the topic of personal sharing at the moment. This and the two previous posts concern this topic. But, I think each post hits the topic a bit differently, so here goes! The topic for this … Continue reading

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Where to find friends? Try personal growth groups.

Friends are more important than vitamins. In fact, good ones are like emotional vitamins. They make our lives go better. I’ve talked a lot about this in this blog. However, the question arises…Where do I find them? I live in … Continue reading

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Blaming your spouse for your self esteem

You are responsible for your self esteem. It’s true.  Ultimately, we are all responsible to take the actions necessary to help us feel good about ourselves.  As children our parents were supposed to give us the feedback that helps us … Continue reading

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Big feelings and little feelings–know which one your partner is having

Recently in a therapy session I hit on an idea that seemed really helpful.  It is simple, as most helpful ideas are.  Here it is:  When your partner is upset, ask yourself, “Is this a big feeling or a little … Continue reading

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Don’t wound your family and friends with judgment

That’s what it will feel like to them–a wound. Over and over again in my therapy room people tell stories of being judged by others. Often the judgement is not obvious. It can easily be a tone of voice or … Continue reading

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The breadth of sex

When I think of sex, I think of three different categories:  gender sexuality, romantic sex, and genital sex.  What’s the difference? To me “gender sexuality” is that aspect of our nature that is most broad.  It has to do with … Continue reading

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