Monthly Archives: December 2013

The Four Questions

Things go wrong in our lives all the time.  And when they do, some of us respond in ways that address the problem and typically bring us a measure of emotional comfort.  However, others of us either pretend that nothing … Continue reading

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Question 1: Who should I talk to about this problem?

Who should I talk to about this problem? This is one of the first questions I encourage people to ask of themselves when things go seriously wrong. Why is this such a big deal?  When facing a significant problem one … Continue reading

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Question 2: How do I need to adjust my plans and expectations because of this problem?

When obstacles happen the question arises: Should I alter my plans or keep things the same? Or, as they say in poker, “Do I hold ’em, or fold ’em?” This is an important question, and attitude has a lot to … Continue reading

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Question 3: What lessons and gifts does this problem have to offer me?

Of the four questions to ask yourself when things go wrong, this question is the happiest one. It bends our mind to the fact that all is not lost when things don’t go the way we want. Years ago as … Continue reading

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Question 4: What is the next right step for me to take?

There’s a time to think, a time to talk, and a time to act.  And after doing what is described in the posts above, it’s time to act.  But, how does one get started? Lest the size of a problem … Continue reading

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