Monthly Archives: April 2011

Are you quirky?

The short answer is “yes.” All of us are quirky. And that doesn’t mean weird–just a little unique. Kim John Payne, in his delightful book Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure … Continue reading

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When I feel the wind blowing on my face…

When I feel the wind blowing on my face, I experience not only the wind, I experience my face. As I have said elsewhere, genuinely knowing ourselves includes experiencing ourselves at a visceral, feeling level in our bodies. This is … Continue reading

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Cycle of Awareness and Contact

In Gestalt therapy the Cycle of Awareness and Contact is concerned with our ability to meet our needs.  Awareness has to do with knowing what our desires and needs are, and contact has to do with taking actions to meet … Continue reading

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The need to be understood

“I just don’t understand why I do that!” is a common thought we have after we eat that extra doughnut, have a silly fight with our spouse, or yet again drink too much at a party. The need to be … Continue reading

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Being enough

You are now, and always have been, enough. I almost always say certain things to my clients during their time with me. One of them is the statement above. When people come to see me they usually want to change. … Continue reading

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We all have “parts”

One of the most useful and true-to-life theories I have found in psychotherapy is something called Internal Family Systems developed by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D..  Simply put, it is this: We all have characteristic feelings and thoughts within us that act … Continue reading

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Attending workshops

I’ve attended numerous personal growth workshops in my life and have typically enjoyed them.  In fact, some of them have changed my life.  This has been especially true if they were interactive or “experiential” workshops rather than primarily lecture-style. As … Continue reading

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